Every really wise person will ask this question: do you prefer to be right or happy? Well most of us prefer to be right even if unhappiness is coming from this desire. And I can understand this.
First of all this is a world built on attack and defense. Everything is based on right or wrong, there are always wars running in many parts of this planet, and everything has to do with who is right and who is not.
Then it is the idea that by defending yourself you will survive and since life is unfair you always need to fight for survival.
Yes! The experience of all the people who fight for survival, or for being right is that people constantly fight them back. So according to their experience they are right.
Sometime, my wife and me decided to stop fighting for proving right, either between us or with the rest of the world. It was not easy in the beginning; people around us and especially our children didn’t believe us, but every day it’s getting easier.
The result is that the external attacks are getting less and less, and since we don't fight back they are stopping. And between us we know now that every problem has one or more solutions that usually come just a few minutes later, not days or weeks.
So it’s just a decision. If you decide step-by-step, day-by-day, in your relationships, to just stop defending yourself you will see things changing miraculously.
I hear you saying that it’s not easy! How do you know, did you try?
And of course if you don’t manage yourself ask for help, it’s your right to be happy!